Today, Malaysia gained international acclaim when it appeared in Forbes news (Forbes news man!!!!) today. Check out the article here at The Myth of a Moderate Malaysia.
No matter what the news was, Malaysia is now famous for all kinds of reasons.
Congratulations, Malaysia. And happy 52nd birthday!
Monday, August 31, 2009
Monday, August 24, 2009
The Consequence of Saying "No"
If there was anything useful I've learned in my recent years, it is to say "No" when I really need to say "No". I've been tested through times and I know what and where my boundaries are.
And if you really knew me, you'd know that when I say "No", I really mean it. And I don't refuse without a good reason and without thinking through properly. Do you have to know why I said "No"? I mean, really, do you have to know? I may or may not tell you why but if I don't, that means at the back of my mind, I'm thinking that you probably won't understand my reasoning even if I told you.
It's difficult especially when you deal with people who can't take "No" for an answer. And even worse when they throw more daggers at you, accusing you of many things. I don't understand how they can tell other people not to scold other people with hurtful accusation and mockery, but they'll do the exact same thing they tell others not to do to me. C'mon lah, what is that?
Because of my limited understanding of the language, that's why I can't completely follow everything there is to follow. But what I do get accused of?? Of not wholeheartedly doing my duty. And that itself is a big insult to me. For the past one and a half year, I've been doing my duty without complaining for the first 8 months. I say no this time, and this is what I get?
Classic example of when you're "obedient" and "good" (obedient means you say yes to everything), you're not remembered. But when you just refused to do it one time or do something wrong, they remember it for the rest of their lives.
Like everyone, I have limits. Like everyone, I have emotions. Or am I not allowed to have limits? Or am I not allowed to have emotions? Like everyone, I have a mind and opinions. Or am I not allowed to have an opinion? Like everyone, I have experience (maybe not in the same areas but we do have experience regardless because life is experience). Or am I not allowed to share my inputs based on my experience, just to make sure the same thing doesn't occur to others?
Not like everyone else, I have been through burnt out. Kena tikam left right center for that. But that is history and you just can't erase history just because you want to (unless of course you're the Malaysian government). I believe burnt out occurs when you're overworked, stressed and you just didn't manage yourself properly. I am definitely guilty of not managing myself properly, but sometimes when you don't have the right tools to manage yourself so that you don't burn out, you just have to make do with it and hope that the inevitable will be long-time coming.
The thing now is I'm not burnt out. But I know where my limits are. And I can't do more than what I am doing now because I don't want to be burnt out. I am just having problems with one side and not both sides. In fact, I enjoy helping the side where I understand and can follow everything that's going on. Don't accuse me of not being wholehearted or not reading my Bible or not saying my prayers or not being faithful.
And because I said "No" to one thing, suddenly God's blessings on my life become conditional is it?
I have had enough of all this. It's a wonder to me how I maintained my sanity after all these years. At certain points, I feel like I'm gonna lose my mind any moment if I don't stop thinking about this. That's why to me, not all distractions are bad. Sometimes distractions are great and essential! Depending on the nature of distraction and the point in your life where it appears.
An example would be me going out with friends out of the blue to watch a movie or just chit-chat, it's because they're a good distraction for me. A contrasting example would be me going to Starbucks somewhere to study my GRE, it's because I need to get away from distractions and focus on my studies (Hmmm... now that's a great idea that came out of nowhere. I might consider it). Maybe I should opt for my strategy in high school and train up my self-discipline in mind focusing.
My only wish now is that you would just LISTEN to what I'm saying. Or at least half of it. And that you would ask me things in a way where you would be expecting a Yes or a No answer. And that you would consider our feelings first and not demand that you get what you want all the time. I don't need accusations. I don't need more slandering. I don't need my emotions to get abused anymore. It is already battered as it is.
And if you really knew me, you'd know that when I say "No", I really mean it. And I don't refuse without a good reason and without thinking through properly. Do you have to know why I said "No"? I mean, really, do you have to know? I may or may not tell you why but if I don't, that means at the back of my mind, I'm thinking that you probably won't understand my reasoning even if I told you.
It's difficult especially when you deal with people who can't take "No" for an answer. And even worse when they throw more daggers at you, accusing you of many things. I don't understand how they can tell other people not to scold other people with hurtful accusation and mockery, but they'll do the exact same thing they tell others not to do to me. C'mon lah, what is that?
Because of my limited understanding of the language, that's why I can't completely follow everything there is to follow. But what I do get accused of?? Of not wholeheartedly doing my duty. And that itself is a big insult to me. For the past one and a half year, I've been doing my duty without complaining for the first 8 months. I say no this time, and this is what I get?
Classic example of when you're "obedient" and "good" (obedient means you say yes to everything), you're not remembered. But when you just refused to do it one time or do something wrong, they remember it for the rest of their lives.
Like everyone, I have limits. Like everyone, I have emotions. Or am I not allowed to have limits? Or am I not allowed to have emotions? Like everyone, I have a mind and opinions. Or am I not allowed to have an opinion? Like everyone, I have experience (maybe not in the same areas but we do have experience regardless because life is experience). Or am I not allowed to share my inputs based on my experience, just to make sure the same thing doesn't occur to others?
Not like everyone else, I have been through burnt out. Kena tikam left right center for that. But that is history and you just can't erase history just because you want to (unless of course you're the Malaysian government). I believe burnt out occurs when you're overworked, stressed and you just didn't manage yourself properly. I am definitely guilty of not managing myself properly, but sometimes when you don't have the right tools to manage yourself so that you don't burn out, you just have to make do with it and hope that the inevitable will be long-time coming.
The thing now is I'm not burnt out. But I know where my limits are. And I can't do more than what I am doing now because I don't want to be burnt out. I am just having problems with one side and not both sides. In fact, I enjoy helping the side where I understand and can follow everything that's going on. Don't accuse me of not being wholehearted or not reading my Bible or not saying my prayers or not being faithful.
And because I said "No" to one thing, suddenly God's blessings on my life become conditional is it?
I have had enough of all this. It's a wonder to me how I maintained my sanity after all these years. At certain points, I feel like I'm gonna lose my mind any moment if I don't stop thinking about this. That's why to me, not all distractions are bad. Sometimes distractions are great and essential! Depending on the nature of distraction and the point in your life where it appears.
An example would be me going out with friends out of the blue to watch a movie or just chit-chat, it's because they're a good distraction for me. A contrasting example would be me going to Starbucks somewhere to study my GRE, it's because I need to get away from distractions and focus on my studies (Hmmm... now that's a great idea that came out of nowhere. I might consider it). Maybe I should opt for my strategy in high school and train up my self-discipline in mind focusing.
My only wish now is that you would just LISTEN to what I'm saying. Or at least half of it. And that you would ask me things in a way where you would be expecting a Yes or a No answer. And that you would consider our feelings first and not demand that you get what you want all the time. I don't need accusations. I don't need more slandering. I don't need my emotions to get abused anymore. It is already battered as it is.
Saturday, August 15, 2009
Too hilarious NOT to share :P
Case #1: Idiotic 'Millionaire' Contestant Makes Worst Use Of Lifelines Ever
NEW YORK - Idaho resident Kathy Evans brought humiliation to her friends and family Tuesday when she set a new standard for stupidity with her appearance on the popular TV show, 'Who Wants To Be A Millionaire.'
It seems that Evans, a 32-year-old wife and mother of two, got stuck on the first question, and proceeded to make what fans of the show are dubbing 'the absolute worst use of lifelines ever.'
After being introduced to the show's host Meredith Vieira, Evans assured her that she was ready to play, whereupon she was posed with an extremely easy $100 question. The question was:
'Which of the following is the largest?'
A) A Peanut
B) An Elephant
C) The Moon
D) Hey, who you calling large?
Immediately Mrs. Evans was struck with an all consuming panic as she realized that this was a question to which she did not readily know the answer.
'Hmm, oh boy, that's a toughie,' said Evans, as Vieira did her level best to hide her disbelief and disgust. 'I mean, I'm sure I've heard of some of these things before, but I have no idea how large they would be.'
Evans made the decision to use the first of her three lifelines, the 50/50. Answers A and D were removed, leaving her to decide which was bigger, an elephant or the moon. However, faced with an incredibly easy question, Evans still remained unsure.
'Oh! It removed the two I was leaning towards!' exclaimed Evans. 'Darn. I think I better phone a friend.'
Using the second of her two lifelines on the first question, Mrs. Evans asked to be connected with her friend Betsy, who is an office assistant.
'Hi Betsy! How are you? This is Kathy! I'm on TV!' said Evans, wasting the first seven seconds of her call. 'Ok, I got an important question. Which of the following is the largest? B, an elephant, or C, the moon. 15 seconds hun.'
Betsy quickly replied that the answer was C, the moon. Evans proceeded to argue with her friend for the remaining ten seconds.
'Come on Betsy, are you sure?' said Evans. 'How sure are you? Puh, that can't be it.'
To everyone's astonishment, the moronic Evans declined to take her friend's advice and pick 'The Moon.'
(MizYingYing: ...........)
'I just don't know if I can trust Betsy. She's not all that bright. So I think I'd like to ask the audience,' said Evans.
(MizYingYing: You've got to be kidding me)
Asked to vote on the correct answer, the audience returned 98% in favor of answer C, 'The Moon.' (MizYingYing: LOL, I love the humour of the 2% who voted for elephant)
Having used up all her lifelines, Evans then made the dumbest choice of her life.
'Wow, seems like everybody is against what I'm thinking,' said the too-stupid-to-live Evans. 'But you know, sometimes you just got to go with your gut. So, let's see. For which is larger, an elephant or the moon,I'm going to have to go with B, an elephant. Final answer.'
(MizYingYing: *Pengsan*)
Evans sat before the dumbfounded audience (MizYingYing: No prize for guessing why), the only one waiting with bated breath, and was told that she was wrong, and that the answer was in fact, C, 'The Moon.'
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CASE #2: Another 'Millionaire' contestant. Super hilarious (",)
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!
Sorry lah, I know I evil. But it's hard not to laugh, isn't it?
NEW YORK - Idaho resident Kathy Evans brought humiliation to her friends and family Tuesday when she set a new standard for stupidity with her appearance on the popular TV show, 'Who Wants To Be A Millionaire.'
It seems that Evans, a 32-year-old wife and mother of two, got stuck on the first question, and proceeded to make what fans of the show are dubbing 'the absolute worst use of lifelines ever.'
After being introduced to the show's host Meredith Vieira, Evans assured her that she was ready to play, whereupon she was posed with an extremely easy $100 question. The question was:
A) A Peanut
B) An Elephant
C) The Moon
D) Hey, who you calling large?
Immediately Mrs. Evans was struck with an all consuming panic as she realized that this was a question to which she did not readily know the answer.
'Hmm, oh boy, that's a toughie,' said Evans, as Vieira did her level best to hide her disbelief and disgust. 'I mean, I'm sure I've heard of some of these things before, but I have no idea how large they would be.'
Evans made the decision to use the first of her three lifelines, the 50/50. Answers A and D were removed, leaving her to decide which was bigger, an elephant or the moon. However, faced with an incredibly easy question, Evans still remained unsure.
'Oh! It removed the two I was leaning towards!' exclaimed Evans. 'Darn. I think I better phone a friend.'
Using the second of her two lifelines on the first question, Mrs. Evans asked to be connected with her friend Betsy, who is an office assistant.
'Hi Betsy! How are you? This is Kathy! I'm on TV!' said Evans, wasting the first seven seconds of her call. 'Ok, I got an important question. Which of the following is the largest? B, an elephant, or C, the moon. 15 seconds hun.'
Betsy quickly replied that the answer was C, the moon. Evans proceeded to argue with her friend for the remaining ten seconds.
'Come on Betsy, are you sure?' said Evans. 'How sure are you? Puh, that can't be it.'
To everyone's astonishment, the moronic Evans declined to take her friend's advice and pick 'The Moon.'
(MizYingYing: ...........)
'I just don't know if I can trust Betsy. She's not all that bright. So I think I'd like to ask the audience,' said Evans.
(MizYingYing: You've got to be kidding me)
Asked to vote on the correct answer, the audience returned 98% in favor of answer C, 'The Moon.' (MizYingYing: LOL, I love the humour of the 2% who voted for elephant)
Having used up all her lifelines, Evans then made the dumbest choice of her life.
'Wow, seems like everybody is against what I'm thinking,' said the too-stupid-to-live Evans. 'But you know, sometimes you just got to go with your gut. So, let's see. For which is larger, an elephant or the moon,I'm going to have to go with B, an elephant. Final answer.'
(MizYingYing: *Pengsan*)
Evans sat before the dumbfounded audience (MizYingYing: No prize for guessing why), the only one waiting with bated breath, and was told that she was wrong, and that the answer was in fact, C, 'The Moon.'
CASE #2: Another 'Millionaire' contestant. Super hilarious (",)
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!
Sorry lah, I know I evil. But it's hard not to laugh, isn't it?
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Dreamsfactory Enterprise
OK. So I just received an SMS from Jobstreet. By the way, diverting a little yeah, why is it an SMS and not a SMS? Or did I just get it all wrong and confused myself for no particular reason?
Anyway, the sms said that I have been called for an interview with a company called Dreamsfactory Enterprise. And I was told to check my email for details regarding the date, place, time and blah blah blah.
I checked. It says my interview is scheduled TOMORROW!!!
My immediate reaction was, "What the hell?? Who on earth schedules their interviews the day after they inform the interviewees???".
Then I recall one conversation with my sister who told me that companies like to set interviews at the earliest convenient time. So I rested my case. Good thing they provided the option of Accept, Reject, or Request to Change Time in the email. I was tempted by the third option.
While wondering whether to accept the interview or not, I googled Dreamsfactory Enterprise to find out more about the company and the map on how to get there. Instead of getting the company's website as the first hit on google search as I'd expected, I got a whole lot of other websites and blogs with info related to Dreamsfactory. Suspicion creeps in... A company should have at least an official website. Even a simple one, right? No?
Among the hits I got, I came across this Lowyat Forum thread which was seemingly unrelated since the topic starter was inquiring about Knighters D'est Enterprise. But you know the little snippets they give under each result? That allows you to see how your keywords found this page? Well, I saw this.
From what I found out, this company changed their names many times, which is one sign of them trying to cover their tracks and avoid being associated with negative comments and bad press with their previous names. Then they send you on on-the-job-training by your second interview where they make you go out to the streets to beg around for donation. Donation for what lor? Where does the money go to?
I found out that they are one of the many companies which exploit the fresh graduates into doing hard work for them for free. I didn't know and am surprised that JobStreet did not filter/ban these companies. But then again, maybe there're too many companies for them to go through one-by-one to authenticate them. Hmmm.
Remember earlier on I said that I was tempted to click Request to Change Time? By the time you've read this post, I would have already clicked Reject. Gotta be more careful these days.
In this case, my curiousity probably saved my ass. And my time.
Anyway, the sms said that I have been called for an interview with a company called Dreamsfactory Enterprise. And I was told to check my email for details regarding the date, place, time and blah blah blah.
I checked. It says my interview is scheduled TOMORROW!!!
My immediate reaction was, "What the hell?? Who on earth schedules their interviews the day after they inform the interviewees???".
Then I recall one conversation with my sister who told me that companies like to set interviews at the earliest convenient time. So I rested my case. Good thing they provided the option of Accept, Reject, or Request to Change Time in the email. I was tempted by the third option.
While wondering whether to accept the interview or not, I googled Dreamsfactory Enterprise to find out more about the company and the map on how to get there. Instead of getting the company's website as the first hit on google search as I'd expected, I got a whole lot of other websites and blogs with info related to Dreamsfactory. Suspicion creeps in... A company should have at least an official website. Even a simple one, right? No?
Among the hits I got, I came across this Lowyat Forum thread which was seemingly unrelated since the topic starter was inquiring about Knighters D'est Enterprise. But you know the little snippets they give under each result? That allows you to see how your keywords found this page? Well, I saw this.
From what I found out, this company changed their names many times, which is one sign of them trying to cover their tracks and avoid being associated with negative comments and bad press with their previous names. Then they send you on on-the-job-training by your second interview where they make you go out to the streets to beg around for donation. Donation for what lor? Where does the money go to?
I found out that they are one of the many companies which exploit the fresh graduates into doing hard work for them for free. I didn't know and am surprised that JobStreet did not filter/ban these companies. But then again, maybe there're too many companies for them to go through one-by-one to authenticate them. Hmmm.
Remember earlier on I said that I was tempted to click Request to Change Time? By the time you've read this post, I would have already clicked Reject. Gotta be more careful these days.
In this case, my curiousity probably saved my ass. And my time.
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Sources of Happiness
and you're hit by major stomach cramps and cold sweat all over..
and the best part is that it started right after you were dropped off at the mall..
which brings us to another best part, it means you have no car to drive home!
Meaning you have to hope that the bad phase will just phase over ASAP!!
And tough it out where you are until you're supposed to go home!!!
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ANYWAY!
At these bad suffering times, happiness is...
Hot chocolate with marshmallows!
At a restaurant with a nice environment ^_^
Really good & delicious food. Eating the salmon with the sauce was yum. The potato pancakes are super yum-yum!
Dessert! Apple fritters, strawberries, syrups, raisins, pancake, ice cream...
Can't remember what else was on the plate.
Nevermind that they were out of whipped cream, it still tasted good!
Watching a mindless comedy movie. First time I'm watching it in 3D.
Honestly speaking, the 3D effect wasn't as amazing as I thought it would be.
Probably will not watch another 3D movie unless it's an action movie.
Ice Age 3 was entertaining but not something I'd remember.
Maybe because there were only eight other people in the hall that didn't laugh or react to anything... which spoiled the fun @_@"
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